My Child Has Aspergers - Now What?
The Top Ten Steps To Take Post DiagnosisFor many parents, finding out
that your child has aspergers syndrome can be a mixed blessing.
On one hand, a positive diagnosis gives rise to the prospect of
management and greater certainty as to the factors at play in your
child's life. On the other, most parents are unprepared for the
changes having a child with aspergers invariably brings.
We've compiled a list of the top 10 steps to take if you think your child may have aspergers disorder, or if you've had your child diagnosed with the condition.
1. First and foremost, permit yourself to take stock of your situation from a place of positivity. With diagnosis comes some certainty, as you and your child are now dealing with a known quantity. There's nothing wrong with taking each day at a time, and understanding that you can now make a difference to your child's life which you could not in the absence of a diagnosis. You're child has always had aspergers...the day your child recieves a diagnosis is the first step in the right direction.
2. Invest in your own education. There is a vast quantity of information on aspergers syndrome available both online, and in the form of medical literature. Sign up for information seminars, online ecourses, and if you are looking for immediately available information give consideration to investing in an ebook written by an expert on Aspergers syndrome. Knowledge is power.
3. Make inquiries with your doctor for a referral to a pediatrician who has experience with Asperger syndrome. Having professional assistance can make an enormous difference to how effectively you can help your child cope with Aspergers. Permit those professionals you consult to guide you through the process and make the most of their advice.
4. If your child is at school contact the Principal and advise them of the diagnosis. Many schools are aware of and in fact provide information on Aspergers and school counselling designed to assist with the condition. In addition, ask your child's school whether they are aware of any parent workshops for aspergers students. If your child is older, homestudy and tutoring may be an option. It is important to be assertive in ensuring that your school can properly cater for your child's needs, and ideally this can be achieved by working within the school protocols. There is no need for you to underestimate your child's potential and certainly this attitude ought be reflected in their educational institution. Involve yourself where possible in your child's educational and learning environments.
5. Make inquiries within your local community as to the support groups available for those with Aspergers and for parents of children with Aspergers. Sharing your situation with others who are in a position to fully appreciate it can make an enormous difference.
6. Contact community services and inquire as to whether you are eligable for a Carers Allowance, or Family Benefit as a parent of a child with Aspergers. Your pediatrician or general practitioner should be able to advise you on this.
7. Contact your local Autism Association and ascertain what services are provided through the service. Make use of private and government resourced services.
8. Involve your family in the process and do your best to maintain objectivity. A child with Aspergers disorder may have certain special and additional needs, however they are for the most well functioning individuals who can thrive with appropriate and measured care. Try and maintain a balance between focusing on providing that care, and being a spouse and parent to the rest of your family.
9. Be honest with yourself. At times rearing a child with Aspergers can cause you anger, sadness, anxiety, frustration and depression. Be open to understanding that you will at times feel all these feelings, and allow that authenticity to give rise to the possibility that you will take care of your own needs. In doing so, you can more effectively tend to the needs of others. Don't feel the need to explain or justify your actions to others. However you cope with the situation is exactly the way you are supposed to.
10. Remember to smile. You have a child! One day...they just might be the ones looking after you.
If you really need some advice and information today, you can download the The Parenting Aspergers Resource Guide
We've compiled a list of the top 10 steps to take if you think your child may have aspergers disorder, or if you've had your child diagnosed with the condition.
1. First and foremost, permit yourself to take stock of your situation from a place of positivity. With diagnosis comes some certainty, as you and your child are now dealing with a known quantity. There's nothing wrong with taking each day at a time, and understanding that you can now make a difference to your child's life which you could not in the absence of a diagnosis. You're child has always had aspergers...the day your child recieves a diagnosis is the first step in the right direction.
2. Invest in your own education. There is a vast quantity of information on aspergers syndrome available both online, and in the form of medical literature. Sign up for information seminars, online ecourses, and if you are looking for immediately available information give consideration to investing in an ebook written by an expert on Aspergers syndrome. Knowledge is power.
3. Make inquiries with your doctor for a referral to a pediatrician who has experience with Asperger syndrome. Having professional assistance can make an enormous difference to how effectively you can help your child cope with Aspergers. Permit those professionals you consult to guide you through the process and make the most of their advice.
4. If your child is at school contact the Principal and advise them of the diagnosis. Many schools are aware of and in fact provide information on Aspergers and school counselling designed to assist with the condition. In addition, ask your child's school whether they are aware of any parent workshops for aspergers students. If your child is older, homestudy and tutoring may be an option. It is important to be assertive in ensuring that your school can properly cater for your child's needs, and ideally this can be achieved by working within the school protocols. There is no need for you to underestimate your child's potential and certainly this attitude ought be reflected in their educational institution. Involve yourself where possible in your child's educational and learning environments.
5. Make inquiries within your local community as to the support groups available for those with Aspergers and for parents of children with Aspergers. Sharing your situation with others who are in a position to fully appreciate it can make an enormous difference.
6. Contact community services and inquire as to whether you are eligable for a Carers Allowance, or Family Benefit as a parent of a child with Aspergers. Your pediatrician or general practitioner should be able to advise you on this.
7. Contact your local Autism Association and ascertain what services are provided through the service. Make use of private and government resourced services.
8. Involve your family in the process and do your best to maintain objectivity. A child with Aspergers disorder may have certain special and additional needs, however they are for the most well functioning individuals who can thrive with appropriate and measured care. Try and maintain a balance between focusing on providing that care, and being a spouse and parent to the rest of your family.
9. Be honest with yourself. At times rearing a child with Aspergers can cause you anger, sadness, anxiety, frustration and depression. Be open to understanding that you will at times feel all these feelings, and allow that authenticity to give rise to the possibility that you will take care of your own needs. In doing so, you can more effectively tend to the needs of others. Don't feel the need to explain or justify your actions to others. However you cope with the situation is exactly the way you are supposed to.
10. Remember to smile. You have a child! One day...they just might be the ones looking after you.
If you really need some advice and information today, you can download the The Parenting Aspergers Resource Guide
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